The one word
There is no point dragging this is out. The one word that will improve your chances of success is the big image above!
Before you start saying “no” to everyone around you, let’s first take a look at why we say “yes”.
We are generally a helpful bunch of as a species. So when someone asks for help we start to look for ways of either being helpful by giving some advice or taking on the work and responsibility of getting it done.
- We want to be liked, at least the vast majority of us! We are also a social animals and it becomes important that we are liked. Taking on some tasks makes us feel we will be part of a team or group and hopefully liked.
- We are unclear of our goals and life/work direction. Not having set our own goals tends to lead us to to doing almost anything in the moment that makes us feel part of a group or be liked.
- Fear of missing out. Saying yes just in case there is something that you may miss out on. Think – meetings!
- Because your boss/manager asked you. We do this all the time, right? There is a general tendency to say yes to whatever the boss/manager asks of you and in the workplace that’s understandable and not always avoidable. (Let’s work on plan to get you working for yourself! Just saying)
We all have the same amount of time each day. In that available time we will want to work, rest, spend time with family and friends, look after our health, be spiritual, find calmness and peace etc. – perhaps not all of these thing every day, but certainly the first three.
By saying no to things that do not help you in your journey, it will free up time to do the things that certainly will help you get waht YOU want.
Most successfull people are focused on doing the things that matter to them or their dream/goal. They are extremely selective on what they say yes to and everything else they decline. Politely, of course!
I appreciate that sometimes you may not have a choice, but in the areas you do, think carefully about what you say yes to.
In some situations a simple and polite “No” may suffice however, in others you may need to find a another way of managing expectations and politely declining. This applies to things at work and also in your personal life.
Let me leave you with a quote from Warren Buffett.
So, protect your time and be conscious what you say yes and more importantly, when to say no.